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The face of Iran's protests. Her life, her dreams
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16 February 2023 | By Gino d'Artali
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webmaster also I constantly have to guard the read-ability of the 'Cryfreedom'-outlet
and sometimes decisions need to be made to have it be for your
convenience and moreso in total support of the women-led revolt in Iran
which inevitably will be a grand Victory. Still, choices must be made
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the 'NO-hijab; 'Biological terror attscks against schoolgirls'; 'Iranian
journalists under siege'; 'Blinding as a weapon' and 'The hanging spree'
as part of the 'Actual news' updates of the Iran 'Woman, Life, Freedom'
section. But, if need be and urgent attention and action is needed
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When one hurts or kills a women
one hurts or kills hummanity and is an antrocitie.
Gino d'Artali
and: My mother (1931-1997) always said to me <Mi
figlio, non esistono notizie <vecchie> perche puoi imparare qualcosa da
qualsiasi notizia.> Translated: <My son, there is no such thing as so
called 'old' news because you can learn something from any news.>
Gianna d'Artali.
When family betrays
Iranwire - August 28, 2024 - by Maryam Dehkordi
When Family Betrays: Homa's Struggle to Heal from a Childhood Torn by Patriarchy
Whenever news of women being killed by men close to them is published, it
triggers a surge of outrage. These stories ignite widespread condemnation of
gender-based violence, highlight the inadequacies of laws meant to protect
women’s rights, and underscore the shortcomings of civil rights education. This
type of news profoundly affects one group more than others: survivors of
gender-based violence. These women, who narrowly escaped becoming just another
number in the grim tally of honor killings, carry the scars of their trauma long
after the headlines have faded.
This report tells the story of Homa, a 36-year-old woman from a small town in
Kerman province, who survived such an ordeal. At just 15 years old, Homa came
face-to-face with the sharp blade of patriarchy - an experience that left a
wound on her soul, one that remains painfully fresh to this day.
"I was only fifteen," Homa recalls. "I went to school and lived with my parents
and four siblings in a busy household. I was the youngest." Homa pauses, taking
a deep breath, clearly struggling to revisit the past. "At a wedding, a young
man noticed me and expressed his interest. In our small town, everyone knows
each other or is related somehow. His sister was my schoolmate. He and his
family visited our home several times to propose, but my parents refused. Rumors
about his drinking were one reason for their opposition, and my father believed
I was still too young."
In many small towns, girls as young as 13 are often groomed for marriage, not
realizing that it signifies not a step toward freedom but the abrupt end of
their childhood and a harsh entry into adulthood. For Homa, marriage was seen as
a pivotal moment in a woman's life. "I was just a child," she says. "I didn't
understand what marriage meant or the responsibilities that came with it. I was
only happy that someone liked me, but I always said I would only agree if my
family did. That never happened." One autumn day, while walking home from
school, Homa encountered the boy on the street. "The town was small, and we
couldn't talk openly in public. He approached me quietly and asked me to come to
his house to talk, saying his sister - my schoolmate - was home. I didn't think
he had any other intentions beyond talking, so I agreed."
When Homa arrived at the young man's house, he insisted that she come inside.
"He said, 'Come in,' and started walking ahead of me, calling out to his
sister," she recalls. "I thought, 'Well, if his family is here, let's see what
happens.' But as soon as I stepped inside, he turned, locked the door, covered
my mouth, and forced me into a room." Homa explains that the young man,
frustrated by her family's disapproval and unable to secure his mother's
consent, decided to kidnap her to pressure both families into agreeing to their
marriage. "I realized he was drunk," she says. "He started drinking in front of
me. While he didn't rape me, he assaulted me. I kept begging him to let me go.
He forced me to take a pill. I was just a child, too weak to resist. The last
thing I remember him saying was, 'I won't give you to your father back unless he
lets us get married.'" The pill quickly took effect, and Homa drifted into a
deep sleep. "I have hazy memories from those hours. At one point, I was in a
car, at another, I was on a bus, but I couldn't keep my eyes open. The next
morning, I woke up in a house that I later learned belonged to one of his
relatives, located outside the province. I overheard him talking to my father on
the phone. I begged him to let me speak. When he handed me the phone, I told my
father, 'Dad, I didn't know. I'll be back.' He reassured me, 'Don't worry, my
dear, nothing happened, it's not your fault.'"
After the phone conversation, Homa felt a slight sense of relief. Her father
assured her that he, along with her brother and uncle, was on his way. "My
family went to the police on the first day I was missing. They reported a
missing person and filed a complaint against this family. But when he called and
explained why he did this, they didn't follow up on the complaint. When my
father arrived, he hugged and kissed me. My brother got into a fight with the
boy, and finally, with our mediation, we went back to our city. But my misery
was just beginning."
Upon entering the house, Homa's mother, brothers, and sisters began beating her
frail fifteen-year-old body in the hallway. "Do you remember how they used to
make tunnels for Iraqi prisoners? That's how they started to spit, curse, and
beat me. They hit wherever they could. My father also hit my head hard from
behind. It was only then that I realized that what I thought was a kidnapping
done by force was, in the eyes of my whole family, the city, and relatives, me
escaping with the boy." The night passes, no matter how difficult. The next
morning, the family holds a meeting in the house's hall. "They were sitting in a
circle. After all these years, I still remember it moment by moment. My father
came forward, and I sat in the middle. He placed a Quran between us. He said, 'I
will ask you a question. Put your hand on the Quran and tell the truth.' I put
my hand on it. 'Did he do something to you? Touch you?' I swore that he didn't
do anything. I knew he meant rape. He said, 'Yes, I'm relieved. Now, no matter
what I do, don't say anything.'"
Homa's voice echoes through the phone, telling IranWire: "Why doesn't this pain
get old? Is it possible for an experience or an event to be so fresh after so
much time? Why doesn't the pain lessen?" Then she continues explaining: "My
brothers and sisters tied my hands and feet. They laid me on my stomach. My
father brought a knife. He wrapped my hair around his hand and raised my head to
put the knife to my throat. I was struggling and crying, saying I had done
nothing. As a result of the struggle, the knife cut my skin, and it became
bloody. My mother, who suffers from epilepsy, had a seizure and fell to the
ground when she saw the blood. She must have been under a lot of pressure. When
my mother fell, my father, brother, and sisters left me in the same situation
and went to tend to my mother..." Homa is a survivor, someone who, as she puts
it, "They didn't kill my body, but they killed my soul." She finds the most
painful aspect of her tragedy to be his family's reaction during and after the
incident: "My sisters and brother told my father to kill me, to take my head and
buy the family's reputation. Later, when my mother passed out and my father got
up from my waist, it was as if he never dared to repeat it again. But for many
years after, I was an invisible being - a disgrace who didn't go anywhere with
the family and was excluded from their decisions. Time passed, and I became
independent. I worked hard, and from the day I got married, I became the good
daughter of the family, the desired daughter. Yet no one seems to remember how
they tortured me when I was fifteen. The torture that my parents now dismiss as
a joke."
Trauma rips away a person's sense of security, plunging them into a relentless
state of fear and helplessness. The scars run deep, no matter how hard the
individual fights to heal. They're left numb, disconnected, and unable to trust,
haunted by the shadows of past horrors that refuse to fade.
Despite a good marriage and mended family ties, Homa's wounds remain raw. Years
of therapy, counseling, and psychological support have done little to dull the
pain. The trauma of those two days continues to torment her, leaving her
distressed and confused whenever the memories resurface.
Psychotherapist Shahrzad Pourabdullah defines trauma as "any incident,
situation, or event that causes stress or injury to a person's body or soul."
About Hsma's experience, Pourabdullah notes the impact of trauma on children:
"Trauma affects and disrupts a child's emotional development. Consequently, a
person who has experienced childhood trauma may mature in age but remain
emotionally stunted at the age of the trauma."
According to Pourabdullah, behavioral symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder
include "emotional arousal, inability to control emotions, anger management
issues, eating disorders, insomnia, depression, addiction, and suicide
attempts.">>
Source:
https://iranwire.com/en/special-features/133338-when-family-betrays-homas-struggle-to-heal-from-a-childhood-torn-by-patriarchy/
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